Fathers – Setting High Standards Since Times Immemorial

What kind of guy do you want?

This was the question that Anne asked me late at night, one day, while we were preparing for our upcoming internal assessment. We were all whining about the unfairness of the vast syllabus and thinking about the good ol’ days when women never had to worry about finding potential mates. For even if they couldn’t find a suitor themselves, the family would see to it and get them married as soon as they turned 16, or at the very most, 19 – A forever and ever kind of ending in just the teens(frankly, I envy them so much. Guy troubles were all they had to face).2986656383_5dab0da9e8_o

Whereas in these times, we have to study hard, get an education and make a successful career of sorts if we are to have even a shot at getting a nice man for ourselves.

In the early days, right up to the 19th century, women were described by authors and poets as desperate to be married, or be noticed by a man or have a romance of her own. Then the feminist movement happened, and all of a sudden people thought that women are becoming independent and thus, men were no longer as important to them as they were before.

Today, especially, women from all over the world are shown to be career oriented, dynamic females who do not require men to substantiate their existence, maybe not. It’s quite true that women do have a sense of identity these days which is completely independent of a man.

However, no matter how much we deny it, women never truly give up on the concept of true love and a happily ever after. While a woman may not need a man to substantiate her very existence, she does need someone to be there for her at all times, because there are times in every woman’s life when she starts to doubt the identity that she has created for herself. There are moments when she can’t help but turn back and think about the ‘what ifs’, the ‘if onlys’, the regrets and wishes that she has harbored over the years.

In those moments, she needs somebody sturdy to support her, to reassure her that no matter what, there will always be someone to catch her before she falls.

As I thought about this, I realized that throughout my life, there hasn’t been a single man whom I could trust to come through for me. No one, that is, except my father.

Father Holding Daughter's Hand

He has always been there through all the big and small hurdles in my life, standing tall and strong like a beacon of light. He was there to fight for me when I was suspended from classes over some Coke cans (long story). He was there when I had nobody to talk to about a new rivalry with a previous friend of mine. Or when I subconsciously needed him to put his foot down when I was ready to throw away my entire life over a guy I met online (to be told later).

So, I wasn’t very surprised when almost of its own accord my reply came.”I want a guy who can be as good a dad as my father.” And I’m sure that in that moment, I saw a flicker of understanding in the eyes of all the girls in the room as they nodded in acceptance of my answer.

P.S- My father also happens to be 6 feet tall and a very handsome man. So when I say, ’a guy like him’, I also mean at least as tall and as good-looking as him.:P


Our Picks for 69th Primetime Emmy Awards [2017] – Programs

The Emmy awards are to be declared on September 17, 2017 in LA(where else?). The nominations are pretty solid as usual and I am here to comment on my personal favorites from them. These choices are only from the ‘Programs’ category. Rest to come soon.
Julia Louis-Dreyfus and Hugh Laurie in Veep
[Photo Credit – HBO]

1.     Outstanding Comedy Series – Veep:  It is one of the few
shows on TV that decently portrays a powerful woman without making her out to
be completely evil or completely pure. Selina Meyer is beautifully flawed and
strikingly relevant after Clinton’s defeat in the 2016 election.

2.     Outstanding Drama
Series – The Crown:
This show is
enthralling. It beautifully weaves the tale of a female aristocrat struggling
to come to terms with a position that offers nominal powers but creates sober
personal conundrums. Again, a show that illustrates the real life humanness
residing in even the most idolized personalities.
3.     Outstanding Variety
Talk Series – Last Week Tonight with John Oliver:
He entertains, he informs, he makes it simpler and he
researches [how much time do the people on the show have?]. He talks about
serious threats using bar jokes and somehow brings hamsters into a discussion
about crucial socio-economic matters. Also, the only Talk Series I can actually
get around to watch.
4.     Outstanding Variety
Sketch Series – Saturday Night Live :
appearances, sketches that are relevant to the times, talented writers and the
overall spontaneity of the show makes it the best contender.
A screencap from Henrietta Lacks’ biopic
[Photo Credit – HBO] 
5.     Outstanding Limited
Series – Big Little Lies:
I am never gonna read
books again, if all of them were made into series this well. Steamy sex,
romantic fluff, criminal issues…the list is endless. This show is what every
show should strive to be. This show breaks all stereotypes about “soccer moms” and
stresses the point that appearances can be staggeringly misguiding.

   6.   Outstanding
Television Movie – The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks:
I’ll be honest. I haven’t watched the other TV movies
nominated. The reason I watched this one was that I wanted to know about
Henrietta Lacks but didn’t have the patience to go through a complete book [I
have a hard time going through nonfiction works]. A choice by default.
7.     Outstanding Reality
Competition Program – Top Chef:
happen to despise reality shows. I don’t even have a guilty pleasure. I never
have and never will watch any reality show, simply owing to the fact that
everything is scripted and nobody actually is convincing in any frame. Top Chef
is my pick simply because it has lots of food which barely bears a consequence
but does inspire my father to cook more often[He is a great cook who is ‘personally affronted by the wrong methods
used on the show
’; his words not mine.]

Which of the choices do you agree/disagree with?Do tell us in comments below.

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